Thursday, February 5, 2015
Wednesday, February 4, 2015
Engagement
Engagement
"The purpose of engagement are to confirm a decision to marry someone, make wedding preparations, and strengthen new extended family relationships. When a couple becomes engaged, they promise to "forsake all others" as the couple finalizes their plans to marry. The practices of this stage involve strengthening relationships with extended family members, meeting regularly with priesthood leaders, preparing for a wedding, and making specific plans for early married life.
President Spencer W. Kimball has commented, "The successful marriage depends in large measure upon the preparation made in approaching it...One cannot pick up the ripe, rich, luscious fruit from a tree that was never planted, nurtured, nor pruned."
By and large, couples will be better served by having longer periods of exclusive dating, followed by shorter engagements."
Hawkins, A., Dollahite, D., & Draper, T. (2012). Successful marriages and families. Provo, Utah: BYU Studies and School of Family Life, Brigham Young University.
"The purpose of engagement are to confirm a decision to marry someone, make wedding preparations, and strengthen new extended family relationships. When a couple becomes engaged, they promise to "forsake all others" as the couple finalizes their plans to marry. The practices of this stage involve strengthening relationships with extended family members, meeting regularly with priesthood leaders, preparing for a wedding, and making specific plans for early married life.
President Spencer W. Kimball has commented, "The successful marriage depends in large measure upon the preparation made in approaching it...One cannot pick up the ripe, rich, luscious fruit from a tree that was never planted, nurtured, nor pruned."
By and large, couples will be better served by having longer periods of exclusive dating, followed by shorter engagements."
Hawkins, A., Dollahite, D., & Draper, T. (2012). Successful marriages and families. Provo, Utah: BYU Studies and School of Family Life, Brigham Young University.
Tuesday, February 3, 2015
Traditional Dating is Endangered
Traditional Dating is Endangered
Given the messages young people are receiving from the broader culture, and even at times from their families and friends, it is not surprising that many Latter-day Saint young adults are confused, afraid to make commitments, and too often turning to the patterns of the world. Similar to young people in the broader culture, Latter-day Saint young adults today must date and marry in a dating culture that lacks strong norms, rituals, and relationship milestones to guide young people to marriage. Traditional dating is the most endangered part of the modern context of dating. Because of this, our prophetic leaders in recent years have warned society and have counseled them to follow a divinely directed approach to dating and courtship.
Elder Dallin H Oaks (2006) gave a landmark talk on this subject at a CES fireside. He encouraged young people to date rather than hang out. Dating involves planning ahead and pairing off. He urged young men to summon their courage and initiate dating. He counseled young women to be supportive by encouraging simple and inexpensive dates that foster greater frequency of dating. Above all, Elder Oaks encouraged young adults to resist cultural trends indicating that there are only two kinds of dating- hanging out or exclusive dating. Specifically, he counseled young adults to engage in traditional dating patterns that can lead to exclusive dating, engagement, and marriage."
Hawkins, A., Dollahite, D., & Draper, T. (2012). Successful marriages and families. Provo, Utah: BYU Studies and School of Family Life, Brigham Young University.
Given the messages young people are receiving from the broader culture, and even at times from their families and friends, it is not surprising that many Latter-day Saint young adults are confused, afraid to make commitments, and too often turning to the patterns of the world. Similar to young people in the broader culture, Latter-day Saint young adults today must date and marry in a dating culture that lacks strong norms, rituals, and relationship milestones to guide young people to marriage. Traditional dating is the most endangered part of the modern context of dating. Because of this, our prophetic leaders in recent years have warned society and have counseled them to follow a divinely directed approach to dating and courtship.
Elder Dallin H Oaks (2006) gave a landmark talk on this subject at a CES fireside. He encouraged young people to date rather than hang out. Dating involves planning ahead and pairing off. He urged young men to summon their courage and initiate dating. He counseled young women to be supportive by encouraging simple and inexpensive dates that foster greater frequency of dating. Above all, Elder Oaks encouraged young adults to resist cultural trends indicating that there are only two kinds of dating- hanging out or exclusive dating. Specifically, he counseled young adults to engage in traditional dating patterns that can lead to exclusive dating, engagement, and marriage."
Hawkins, A., Dollahite, D., & Draper, T. (2012). Successful marriages and families. Provo, Utah: BYU Studies and School of Family Life, Brigham Young University.
Monday, February 2, 2015
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