Proclamation Principles and Supportive Scholarship
"Overindulging children is a form of permissiveness that requires careful consideration. As a member of the Seventy, Elder Joe J. Christensen (1999, p.9) counseled:
"We should avoid spoiling children by giving them too much. In our day, many children grow up with distorted values because we as parents overindulge them...One of the most important things we can teach our children is to deny themselves. Instant gratification generally makes for weak people."
Elder Neal A. Maxwell (1999, p.2) taught:
"A few of our wonderful youth and young adults in the Church are unstretched-they have almost a free pass. Perks are provided, including cars complete with fuel and insurance-all paid for by parents who sometimes listen in vain for a few courteous and appreciative words. What is thus taken for granted...tends to underwrite selfishness and a sense of entitlement."
In summary, permissive parenting does not fit well with proclamation principles. As has been noted, parents are charged with the responsibility to guide and teach the principles of the gospel to their children by example and precept (see D&C 68:25-28)."
Successful marriages and families: proclamation principles and research perspectives
By: Hawkins, Alan J..BYU Studies and School of Family Life, Brigham Young University
2012
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